Archive | February, 2012

This Weekend…

17 Feb

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…unless you’re married.

 

Have a good weekend!

XO Aimee

 

Bite-sized Blog: Men are Pigs?

16 Feb

This segment is a little thing a like to call a bite-sized blog. If you’re not a big reader or you are super busy, you probably don’t spend a lot of time reading long blogs. The good news is, I do! I admit, some blogs can be rather lengthy, but that doesn’t mean that they aren’t worth reading. This is a segment where I read a blog for you and give you the main points. Hopefully you can still get something out of it, without having to read the whole thing! If you like what you read or want to know more check out the entire blog here:

Today’s bite-sized blog comes from “When Pigs Fly” by Mike Ensly.

 “Men are pigs.”

You can say this pretty much anywhere and get approval. Unfortunately, even Christians have accepted this idea as well. Men are often characterized by their intense sex drive and carnality. This idea has made some men ashamed of their sexuality and some women fearful of it.

Men are taught to just deal with their sexuality and apologize for it. However, this was not how God intended it to be.

“Would it be controversial to say men are supposed to be the way we are? That, despite the sin we struggle with, there is something good and God-like lying dormant in our sexual wiring? To believe that my sexuality is a gift and not a curse, most of the time I feel like I’m hoping against hope.”

God created men, including their sexuality and sex drive.  And contrary to what we have been taught to believe, he didn’t make a mistake! So what was God thinking when He made them the way He did? Are men supposed to be sorry about the way they were created?

Most people would agree that men and women are completely different. The differences in the appearance of our bodies alone are obvious.

However, through our differences, men and woman were created to complement each other. The things that we tend to think are bad about male sexuality are actually ways in which he was created to complement his mate.

For example:  Men are more visually stimulated and emotionally simple that women.

“A man’s body is so utilitarian … a woman’s body is a work of art.”

Male bodies are more functional and women are more beautiful. That’s not to say the male has no beauty or the female lacks function — there’s just a different order of priorities in either design.

There is a desire in women to want to feel beautiful.

“A woman’s soul was made to be sought after and adored, not just her body. Not just her body — meaning it’s still true for her body, even while it’s more true for her heart.”

Men were made with a desire to pursue a woman’s body AND heart, and women were made with the desire to feel valued and beautiful.

Yes, men and women are wired completely different. This is a good thing.

Rather than feeling ashamed or fearful of male or female sexuality, we should embrace our differences with a sense of gratitude and wonder.

 

What do you think…

Did this change your perspective of male sexuality at all?

Do you agree with what Mike is trying to say or do you still think men are pigs?

 

 

Worth Your Watch

14 Feb

In honor of Valentines Day, what topic is more fitting than love? Take a few minutes to watch this video describing God’s love for us.

A few thoughts about the video…

He is jealous for you. God loves you so much that he is actually jealous for your attention! He doesn’t just want a part of your life, he wants all of you. He desires to be with you.

Real Love. God sending his only son to earth to be beaten and murdered so that you could one day be with him forever… that’s real love. He did it all for you. A guy buying you flowers and taking you on a date looks cheap in comparison. Jesus sacrifice is an expression of how great the love of God is.

He loves us even when we sin. Our sin makes His love even more mind blowing, because he loves us even though we continue to sin against him. That’s not because of who we are, but it is because of who He is.

I pray this for you on this Valentines Day-

“And may you have the power to understand, as all God’s people should, how wide, how long, how high, and how deep his love is. May you experience the love of Christ, though it is too great to understand fully. Then you will be made complete with all the fullness of life and power that comes from God.” Ephesians 3:18-19

 

Stop Waiting

13 Feb

Growing up in church, girls often have the same ideas drilled into our heads over and over. A very common one for girls is: WAIT. Wait to have sex till you’re married. Wait for God to bring you your husband. Wait and everything will turn out fine.

While I agree with the heart of these messages, I think they can sometimes get messed up when put into action.

First of all, are these messages biblical?

Waiting to have sex till marriage definitely is. God’s plan for every person is that they wait to have sex until they are married.

What about waiting for a man?  The idea of waiting is definitely biblical.

The word wait appears 129 times in the Bible.

We are told to “eagerly wait for our Lord Jesus Christ to be revealed” (1 Cor. 1:7), and to “wait for the blessed hope —the appearing of the glory of our great God and Savior, Jesus Christ,” (Titus 2:13).

The Bible tells us to wait for a man.

This man is not you future husband. This man is Jesus.

We should be waiting for Jesus and living a life of service to him, not living a life temporarily paused until we find the right guy. If you’ve found Jesus, you’ve already found the right guy. You don’t need to wait for anything more to start your life.

Your life begins when you accept Christ, not when you get married. God’s plan to bring you a husband is only a part of the big picture.

I’ve seen too many girls get so caught up in waiting for a man that they never do ANYTHING for Christ.  They don’t want to really commit to a ministry or discover their calling any further because they’re still waiting for a husband and well… he may have different plans.

Your future husband, if he’s a true follower of Christ, will be pumped out of his mind that you are actually doing something with your faith! Real Christian guys like real Christian girls. If you’re not doing anything with your faith, maybe that’s why you attract guys that aren’t doing anything with their faith either. A real Christian guy will encourage you to do even more for Christ.

Stop waiting and start walking. Shift your focus from waiting for a husband to serving Christ.

To clarify, I am not against the idea of waiting for God to bring you a man. I think that His timing is perfect and we should let Him ultimately be in control of who we end up with. My point is that life shouldn’t just be about waiting. You can wait while you walk.

Girls, please stop waiting and start walking out your faith! Your life doesn’t begin when you find a husband. God has a great plan for your life and, believe it or not, it starts BEFORE you find a man.  So many girls waste precious year waiting when they could be doing great things for God.

God isn’t going to reward you for how long you spent patiently waiting; He is going to reward you for the things you’ve done for his kingdom.

Serving God and finding His plan for your life will give you satisfaction that a man can’t. Don’t get me wrong, marriage is an amazing gift from God and He will definitely use that in your life.  However, nothing on this earth will ever satisfy your soul’s need for God except walking with Him and serving Him.

So girls, I propose we stop waiting and start walking! Who is with me?

 

Think about it…
What do you think God is leading you to do? He has a special calling for each of us. If you don’t know yet but you want to, I encourage you to check out this book Chazown. This is what really helped me figure out what I am passionate about and what I believe God wants to use me for.

 

 

 

Weekend Recap

12 Feb

Hey guys! I realize you people have some pretty busy lives! I know you might not always have a spare few minutes to read what I post everyday. So, if you have today off and wanna catch up. Here’s a recap of posts from this past week!

A look at Jesus’ interaction with a sinful woman.

Where have all the good men gone?

God doesn’t use the same plan for everyone’s life.

Jesus want you no matter where you’ve been.

The best part of Valentines Day.

I hope you’ve had a good week and enjoyed this weeks posts. Next week I will be posting some brand new stuff so make sure you check back!

XO Aimee

Worth Your Watch

10 Feb

Take just a couple minutes to watch this clip of Pastor Matt Chandler.

Just a few quick thoughts…

Jesus wants you no matter where you’ve been. Whatever your past is, no matter how broken or dirty you might feel, Jesus still wants you. He wants you to trust him with your life and become part of his family.

You are not damaged goods. If you have a sexual past that you feel ashamed of, that does not make you a second-class citizen. The Bible says,

“Anyone who belongs to Christ has become a new person. The old life is gone; a new life has begun!”  -2 Corinthians 5:17

If you have trusted Jesus you are a NEW person. You no longer have to be ashamed of the things youve done, because that isnt you anymore! You have a new life in Christ. Don’t ever let anyone make you feel like a less valuable Christian because of your past. God’s purpose is not limited by your past.

I hope this encourages you if you’ve ever felt like the rose. Know that Jesus wants you, no matter what.

Think about it…

What do you think Matt meant when he said “the church is often an enemy of conversion and not its friend”?

 

Matt Chandler is the Pastor of The Village Church in several locations in Texas. Click here to watch some more of his messages.

 

 

Sweet Tweet: Plans

7 Feb

Sweet Tweet: Plans

“We are individuals before God and He’s got an individual plan for our lives. He doesn’t do everything the same way in everyone’s life” -@JoyceMeyer

This can be a tough concept to grasp, especially for women. We tend to constantly compare our lives to others and wonder why things haven’t worked out the exact same way for us.

Like when you are surrounded by friends who are getting married and you’re still single. You wonder why God hasn’t brought the guy for you yet. Don’t panic. God didn’t forget about you. His plan for your life is different.

Or when it seems like everything is going right for everyone else, and you continue to struggle. You look at their life and wonder why you don’t see the same blessings in your own. But that’s their plan, not yours.

God doesn’t use the same plan for everyone’s life.  Just as we are individuals, we have individual plans for our lives and they are all different.

God’s plan for your life is unique. But, not only is it custom made just for you, it is also good.

I know what I’m doing. I have it all planned out- plans to take care of you, not abandon you, plans to give you the future you hope for.  Jeremiah 29:11

God is creative. He never uses the same plan twice. Think of how boring it would be if we all had the same talents and passions! Or we all got married and had kids at the same time. Our stories would be so alike and boring.

God loves us enough to handwrite our stories and make them each special in their own way. That’s what makes your story so powerful… It is uniquely created by God and it’s yours and yours only!

So next time you compare your life to someone else’s, remember that’s THEIR plan, not yours.

 

Bite-Sized Blog: The Man-Boy Epidemic

6 Feb

Bite-Sized Blog: The Man-Boy Epidemic

This segment is a little thing a like to call a bite-sized blog. If you’re not a big reader or you are super busy, you probably don’t spend a lot of time reading long blogs. The good news is, I do! I admit, some blogs can be rather lengthy, but that doesn’t mean that they aren’t worth reading. This is a segment where I read a blog for you and give you the main points. Hopefully you can still get something out of it, without having to read the whole thing! If you like what you read or want to know more, check out the entire blog below. 

Today’s bite-sized blog comes from “Real Women Don’t Text Back: How Women Fuel the Man-Boy Problem” by Ruthie Dean.

“Where have all the good men gone?” This is a popular question asked by women, particularly those who have been in the dating scene for a significant amount of time with no success.

Recently, women have made great strides in education and career achievements. At the same time, it seems as though men are becoming increasingly more immature and living in a state of prolonged adolescence revolving around alcohol, porn, and video games.

“The former cultural standards of marriage for sex and children have changed drastically in the past 50 years as one-night stands are celebrated and single parenthood accepted.”

Sorry ladies, but we are part of the problem by deeming this kind of behavior acceptable.

One way we condone this behavior is by failing to set high standards for ourselves, standards God desires for us. We are accepting these men who are less than God’s best for us, and frankly they are hardly even men.

“I’ve seen it too many times—brilliant, accomplished, God-fearing women making excuses for the players and the deadbeats and the guys who aren’t interested in anything more than sex.”

A lot of us have been in this situation. We trade in God’s best for us in the long run for a cheap substitute to cure our loneliness for a short time. It’s not worth it. It’s time to raise our standards.

“The arguably most dangerous way women are contributing to the man-boy problem is in regards to sex. Oftentimes, women, including Christians, go further physically than they want to, hoping that their prowess will help them ‘catch a man’ when in fact, the opposite happens. Sex gives men the benefits without the promise of commitment and fidelity. Sure, there won’t be as many guys lining up to date you, but marriage will be a different story. Keeping the highest sexual purity standards will ensure he isn’t dating you just because he likes seeing you naked—and keep his intentions honorable.”

The quicker sex enters a relationship, the sooner the relationship fails. Keep sex out of the equation while you are dating. First, because God’s standard is sex only in marriage. Any sex happening out of marriage is sin. Second, if you make it clear that you plan on waiting to have sex till marriage, it will weed out the guys who are only interested in you for that reason. Trust me, some will run as fast as they can once they hear that!

“Lowering your standards will never change a man—and almost all of these “I can change him” situations result in him changing you.”

Another popular excuse among Christian girls for dating less than Christian guys is that they want to help them or change them. To put it briefly: it doesn’t work. God can change and save men, we cant. Dragging him to church and smothering him with your prayers needs to stop before God can actually move in his heart. If you’re with a guy who is far from being the man of God you want and you really care about him, dump him. It is what’s best for the both of you.

“The current dating scene is hard—but it is not hopeless. I know many women who waited patiently and are now walking arm in arm with honorable, godly men. In the meantime, keep pursuing your own interests and building God’s kingdom, whether or not a husband is on the horizon.”

If you are single and looking for Mr. Right, don’t get discouraged by all the Mr. Wrongs. Keep your head up and your standards high. What you feel like you are missing in your dating life will be made up for in your marriage. Maximize your single years for God and focus on becoming the person who you’re looking for is looking for.

Think about it…

Do you think women contribute to the “man-boy” problem?

If so, What do you think we can do to stop encouraging this kind of behavior?

 

 

Where are your accusers?

5 Feb

This story is often called “the woman who was caught in adultery.” Not the most flattering thing to be known for. She has no name. Her sin is what identifies her. We don’t know how old she was or if she had any kids, we simply find her in this situation in Luke 8:1-11.

The story says that Jesus was speaking to a crowd when all of a sudden the religious leaders interrupted. They had a woman with them who had been caught in the act of adultery, which most likely means she was having sex with another woman’s husband.

The laws at this time ordered this woman to be stoned to death because of her sin and the people were prepared to do it. They were just waiting on Jesus’ approval.

Pause: Can you imagine what this woman was feeling? Here she was completely exposed in front of a crowd of people, the religious leaders, and Jesus. Everyone knows her sin and she is about to be stoned to death. Can you imagine the shame she felt? How would you feel if your sin was out in the open for everyone to see… including Jesus?

If you don’t know the end of this story, you might think that Jesus scolded her.  Maybe He preached at her about how she is wicked and going to hell for her sin. Maybe he picked up a rock and joined in with the people to punish her for her actions.

But he didn’t. How Jesus responded confounded the religious people. But, Jesus never did anything predictable.

Pause:  Think about what your first response is when you hear about a woman sleeping with someone else’s husband. We usually assume the worst about a person’s character. 

Jesus does not define her by her sin. 

How Jesus responded is the key. The people are getting ready to stone her when Jesus says, “All right, but let the one who has never sinned throw the first stone!” There is only one person who qualifies.

That person is Jesus. Jesus is the only person who has never sinned, and would have the right to throw the first stone and condemn the woman for her sin. But he doesn’t.

Jesus waits around until all the people leave, until it is just him and the woman. He asks her, “Where are your accusers? Didn’t even one of them condemn you?”  She answers, “No, Lord.” He says, “Neither do I. Go and sin no more. “

Jesus, the savior who died for the sins of the world, the only person who never sinned, is face to face with this woman caught in sin, yet he does not condemn her.  He saves her life and all he asks is that she goes and sins no more. He didn’t ask about the details of her past or what she had done, He simply tells her to sin no more.

I hope this encourages you.

We have all sinned. None of us have the right to judge one another because we are all guilty when we stand in front of Jesus.

Maybe you have a past that you are ashamed of, and you think that you could never come close to Jesus because of your sin.

Or maybe you are involved in sin right now and too scared to come close to Jesus.

Jesus does not define you by your sin.

He is not going to pick up the stone against you. The same that was true for the woman is true for you today, He does not condemn you. He already knows all you’ve done and where you’ve been. All that he cares about is that you come to him, and then go and sin no more.

Where are your accusers? Who can condemn you? If Jesus doesn’t, then NO ONE CAN.

So do as Jesus says, go and sin no more. You have been forgiven. No one can condemn you.

 

Think about it…

Do you relate to the woman in this story?

What does Jesus’ response mean to you?

 

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Welcome :)

5 Feb

Hi! Welcome to the very beginning of my blog.

I plan on providing you with blogs, videos, links, and random thoughts all centered around trying to figure out what a Christian girl should look like today.

Make sure to interact and comment on my posts. If you love it or hate it, let me know how you feel!

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I look forward to providing you with information to encourage you and help you understand more of what God’s plan is for us as women.

XO Aimee