Archive | May, 2012

Desire for intimacy

21 May

It seems that every little girl has shared the same experience… The infamous celebrity crush! C’mon…We all had them. The guy on that poster which you had on your wall and the one you dreamed of marrying. When you played with your friends he would be your husband… Am I right? It could have been a singer, actor, or maybe he was a real guy you knew.

For some reason, even from the time we are very young, we develop this infatuation for a person due to our great desire to be with them. So how does this happen? Is this some weird coincidence that all girls develop crushes growing up? Or is it “natural”? Could it be possible that this is actually a desire put deeply inside of us all?

As humans, we were created with a deep desire for intimacy. If you look back to the very beginning, God knew we had this desire and that is why he wanted to be in direct relationship with us. God had direct relationship with the first human named Adam. But even though Adam had God, He still blessed Adam with a companion named Eve. (Genesis 2:18) This was good in God’s eyes. Adam had a relationship with God and another human. However, Adam and Eve messed this up when they brought sin into the world. (Genesis 3) This sin now had the power to separate them from direct relationship with God.

There is something put in us that longs for something deeper than the world around us. That is why so many people spend their lives trying to “find themselves”. People try countless religions and groups trying to find some deeper purpose in life. People try to find intimacy in countless, shallow relationships hoping that the next person will satisfy their desire for intimacy. A religion or person never will accomplish this. It is only a relationship with God that will satisfy our desire for intimacy.

David says in Psalm 73:25, “I desire you more than anything on earth.”

Just like David, we all have a desire for intimacy put in us by God that was meant to be for God. However, because of our sinful nature, we get this messed up and try to fill this desire with other things.

“When you follow the desires of your sinful nature, the results are very clear: sexual immorality, impurity, lustful pleasures, idolatry, sorcery, hostility, quarreling, jealousy, outbursts of anger, selfish ambition, dissension, and division.” Galatians 5:19

Do any of those things sound familiar? Our own desires will lead us to sin. It started all the way back with Adam and Eve. It keeps us from God. Because of our sin, we often try to fill our desire for intimacy with another person. I think this is especially true for girls. Girls will go from boyfriend to boyfriend hoping to finally find that one who will satisfy. God doesn’t see intimacy with another person as a bad thing, He said it was good for Adam to have Eve. However, intimacy with another person is not a substitute for intimacy with God.

That longing we have even from the time we were little girls was a desire for intimacy. Don’t try to fill your desire for intimacy with another person or religion or self-help. The only way our soul’s deepest longings can be fulfilled is by intimacy with the person who created us.

“As the deer longs for streams of water, so I long for you, O God. I thirst for God, the living God.” Psalm 42:1-2

Have you been searching, trying to fill your desire for intimacy? Your search ends here. It is a relationship with God that all of our hearts long for. A relationship with God will satisfy all our longings, because He created us and knows exactly what we need.

We all have a desire for intimacy. Point yours towards God.