Bite-sized Blog: Principles for dating (Part I)

7 Sep

Today’s Bite-sized Blog comes from, “For the gals: 8 principles for dating” by Jen Smidt. I thought this blog was awesome! Things all girls can relate to and good things to keep in mind while dating.

1. Repeat after me: “You are loved.”

It seems like such a simple concept, but it’s something we often fail to realize. If you are a Christian, you are a daughter of God.

God says to his daughters in Jeremiah 31:3: “I have loved you with an everlasting love; therefore I have continued my faithfulness to you.”

God LOVES his daughters.  Even if you aren’t being pursued by a man right now, Jesus is always pursuing you. You are loved by Him, always.

Until you have tasted God’s eternal, steadfast, redeeming love, hold off on looking for a man. You may just end up settling for a quick love that cannot fill the core of your heart’s longing.

 2.      You are less beautiful that you think and more beautiful than you believe.

No matter how much makeup, tanning, teeth whitening, or dieting we do, none of it can change the fact that beneath all of that… we are ugly. We all have a toxic ugliness caused by our sin, which can only be covered by God’s forgiveness and grace.

It takes a humble, redeemed woman changed by God to admit the ugliness of her sin and rest in her beauty in Christ. We must repent of our pride, our shame, our obsession with our looks.

You see, the point is our inner beauty. What God see’s when He looks at us, not what we see when we look in the mirror.

Our sin makes us ugly. However, Christ can make us beautiful.  There will still be times to admit our struggle with sin, but when we find our identity in Christ we will reflect his beauty.

Charm can mislead and beauty soon fades. The woman to be admired and praised is the woman who lives in the fear of God.” Proverbs 31:30

 3. Consider what controls you.

Take a look inside of yourself for a minute. What controls you? What are you constantly thinking about? Or even if it is not so obvious, what is deep down that controls what you are thinking about? (For example: if you can’t stop wishing you had a boyfriend, it may be a thought driven by loneliness.)

Is it fear, loneliness, demand for a man, seeking approval, career, money?

These things can take control of our hearts and minds, distracting us from the bigger picture. The bigger picture is that we have a God who gave everything for us and who, even still today, loves us unconditionally.

Don’t settle for less than that. You can search for fulfillment in every job, relationship, and possession that money can buy but you will never find true satisfaction. It is when we delight ourselves in Him that we will be truly satisfied.

Take delight in the LORD, and he will give you your heart’s desires.” Psalm 37:4

 4. Address your “Daddy issues.”

This is something most all of us can relate to. Often, our earthly fathers fail us and fall short of loving us unconditionally.

Whether yours was absent and uninvolved or abusive and abandoning, don’t let him define who you believe your heavenly Father to be.

Whether you have a great dad or the worst dad, it doesn’t change who God is. We all have imperfect earthly fathers. However, we all share a perfect heavenly father.

We have a perfect heavenly Father that loves each one of us perfectly. We do not need to search for a dad-duplicate or dad-replacement in a man. The void we felt left from our earthly fathers can only be filled by our heavenly Father.

Let Scripture reveal to you who God is as Dad and what kind of care He gives his daughters.

And I will be your Father, and you will be my sons and daughters, says the Lord Almighty.”     2 Corinthians 6:18


I hope you enjoyed this blog as much as I did, Part 2 will be coming soon!




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