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Watch with me: Week 2

28 Feb

Watch with me: Week 2

Pleasure is part of God’s plan for us, but when it becomes our primary goal, it stops being satisfying. Part 2 of this series focuses on the term ENTICE, the first step in sexual entrapment, and on standing—and rising again—through grace.

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We are all human. We are all sexual beings. God put in us the desire for pleasure. It is not wrong to have sexual urges and desires. We are all in this together.

1.   It’s easy.

As human beings, sin is not hard to do. In fact it comes naturally. In 2012 it is easier than ever before to become sexually addicted in one area or another.  So why are we shocked when people confess their sexual struggles? We have the tendency to think that you have to be sick, perverted, or evil to have a sexual problem.  It’s easy and we are all susceptible. If you feel like you are thankful that you have no sexual problems, take heed. We are all just one bad decision away from addiction because we are all human. If you are sexually whole, it is Jesus who makes you whole and not by your own ability.

2.   It starts in our minds.

If you’ve ever found yourself sexually addicted or so far in sexual sin where you wonder, “how did I get here?” It starts in the mind. It starts when we open our minds to ideas and entertain thoughts in our heads. It’s easy to do. Ephesians 5:12 says, “It is shameful even to talk about the things that ungodly people do in secret.”  We shouldn’t even talk about certain things because it allows thoughts into our heads. God does not tempt us with sin, but rather because of our human nature we are enticed because of our own sexual desires. Enticement + Temptation = Sin. It is not wrong to have urges. It’s what you do with those urges that produce sin. We can actually seek and worship pleasure, making it our god. Believe it or not, God wants us to have the maximum amount of pleasure possible! That’s why he created an experience specifically catered to every system in the human body: physical, emotional, spiritual. His plan is that sex between one man and one woman, in a relationship with him, will ultimately satisfy all of our longings.

3.   Jesus is the answer.

God wants us to experience physical pleasure, but even maximum physical pleasure won’t satisfy our souls deepest cravings. In our search for pleasure we get enticed and go outside of God’s context, but above all we need Jesus for true fulfillment and satisfaction. Jesus is the ultimate source of pleasure in this life. Psalm 16:11 says, “You will show me the way of life, granting me the joy of your presence and the pleasures of living with you forever.” In John 4 Jesus finds a woman who was searching for fulfillment. She had been through 5 husbands and was living with another man, but still hadn’t found the fulfillment she was searching for. Jesus doesn’t say, “You’re sinning by living with this man! You have a problem! You need to fix it!”  He says, “I’m the man you’re looking for. Your search ends here.” We can try to patch up our sexual addictions with solutions, but ultimately we need Jesus. He is the way, the answer, the antidote, and true source of satisfaction.

4.   It’s easier than you think to be free.

If this is something you’ve struggled with, it may seem hopeless. Almost like you can never be free. But you can. We are all enticed by sin and have desires. You are not weird and you are not a freak. Jesus says in John 7:37, “Anyone who is thirsty may come to me!” Anyone. Come to Jesus. Your physical problem is deeply rooted in a desire for connection. Jesus is the connection you’ve been searching for. You can be whole in your sexuality. Jesus is saying, “come to me and you will search no more.” Jesus works for everyone. He loves you and wants to make you whole. Matthew 7:7 says, “Keep on asking, and you will receive what you ask for.” If you ask Jesus to heal you and fulfill the deepest longings of your soul he will be faithful to do it.


What did you think about this weeks message?




Watch with me: Week 1

21 Feb

Watch with me: Week 1

In this series opener, Pastor Judah talks about God’s design and intent for sex. Our culture has distorted sexuality, but rather than pointing fingers, we must display God’s compassion and grace. That’s where the road to recovery begins.

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I just want to point out some main thoughts to remember, and things that stuck out to me as particularly important.

1. God and sex go together.

God is the inventor and creator of sex! He has a purpose for it and thoughts about it. Since he created it, it is best used in the context he created it for. We see in Genesis 2:22-27 that his context is between a man and wife. Sex out of God’s context will always bring shame, disappointment, and embarrassment.

 2. Something has gone terribly wrong.

We live in a world where children are sold as sex slaves every day and pornography is normal for kids as young as 10. There is no doubt that something is wrong. This issue of sexuality and the perversion of it have affected us all in one way or another. But just recognizing that there is a problem isn’t enough. What are we going to do about this epidemic?

 3. It starts with compassion.

Our first reaction must be compassion in order to help people suffering from sex- related issues. Compassion is the precursor to breaking the silence. We learn this from Jesus. Although many people of his day were embarrassed, Jesus allows a prostitute to wipe his feet with her hair because he has compassion for her (Luke 7). Although her sins were many, her love was great and that is what really matters.

 4. “Them” or “You”?

We need to level the playing field. Apart from God’s grace and forgiveness we are no different than the prostitute, porn addict, or child molester we see on the street. We are all sinners. There is no totem pole of sins. We are busy ranking sins while people are hurting and dying around us. We have to realize when we see people: that could have, should have, and would have been us- if it weren’t for the grace of God. We must become a community of compassion and unconditional grace to ALL people, no matter how far in sin they are. Freely we’ve received, freely we must give.


What I took from this message may be different than what you did. What stood out to you?



Watch with me: Introduction

21 Feb

A candid, hope-filled series about sex and purity, based on the biblical story of Samson and Delilah

So the other day I came across this message series with quite the interesting title… Jesus is bringing sexy back. The message was actually part one of a seven week series on sex by Judah Smith at The City Church.

I’ve watched the part one to the series and I really think some great things are going to be taught on sex and purity. So, I would like to invite YOU to watch along with me and discuss it while we learn together. Each week I will list some key points and thoughts on the message.

The messages are about 30 minutes long and there will be a new one posted each week. This may sound intimidating, but it is very possible.  If you are willing to give up one episode of Jersey Shore a week, I promise you will learn more from God than you will from Snooki!

But besides all this I truly believe that God has something to teach you in this series. Whether you’re single or married, we can all learn something from this series!

Take a break from listening to what our culture has to say about sex, and take a look at what the Bible has to say.

So not only do I invite you, I challenge you to give God the chance to speak to you through this series.

What do you say… Are you going to watch with me?

Click here to watch the first message in the series. My thoughts will be coming soon!