What do your words say about you?

19 Mar

It’s no secret that girls like to talk. It seems to be something that is built into us. We can literally just sit and talk to our friends for hours upon hours and think nothing of it! Most men can’t even understand it… It’s a girl thing!

However, as a result of being talkers, we are also often gossipers and complainers. We can use being women as an excuse for talk that is so clearly warned about in scripture.

Ephesians  4:29 says, “Don’t use foul or abusive language. Let everything you say be good and helpful, so that your words will be an encouragement to those who hear them.”

I don’t know about you, but the way I talk is not always good or helpful. I think as women we can tend to focus on two types of sinful talk.

The first is gossip. This is basically talking about other people in a way that you wouldn’t if they were in the room. I honestly don’t know if I’ve ever had a conversation with a group of women that doesn’t involve gossip! It is so prevalent and seems to come so naturally to us. But as Christians, gossip should not be a part of our conversations.

What our gossip says about us is that we have a sin problem of our own. When you point out the problems in other people’s lives, you may as well put a magnifying glass on your own.

 “And why worry about a speck in your friend’s eye when you have a log in your own? How can you think of saying to your friend, ‘Let me help you get rid of that speck in your eye,’ when you can’t see past the log in your own eye? Hypocrite! First get rid of the log in your own eye; then you will see well enough to deal with the speck in your friend’s eye.” –Matthew 7:3-5

We are hypocrites when we gossip. In attempting to point out the sins of others, we actually point out our own. We shouldn’t sit around and discuss others’ lives because it is not beneficial to anyone. There are far better things to use our breath and energy on discussing.

Second is complaining. This could possibly be one of the most annoying things to those around you. Nobody likes someone who just constantly complains about their life. Yet it seems like when we get together we can tend to complain about everything under the sun. Our husbands aren’t good enough, our jobs aren’t good enough, we wish we could have a better house or car, life isn’t fair… blah blah blah.

What our complaints say about us is that we are ungrateful and we don’t really trust God.

Ephesians  5:4 says, “Obscene stories, foolish talk, and coarse jokes—these are not for you. Instead, let there be thankfulness to God.”

Our talk should be encouraging, and full of thankfulness to God. What if we actually spent our time talking about all the ways God has blessed us, instead of complaining about the ways he hasn’t?

When we get together, we have the opportunity to encourage each other and glorify God, we shouldn’t waste it on gossip and complaining.

What do your words say about you?

Psalm 19:14, “May the words of my mouth and the meditation of my heart be pleasing to you, O LORD, my rock and my redeemer.”

Are your words pleasing to God? I will be the first one to say that mine are not always pleasing to God. However, Jesus is always willing to forgive us and change us. Our prayer should be like Psalm 19:14; that our words would be pleasing to God.

I challenge you to be aware of what your talk consists of when you get together with your girlfriends. When you realize that your talk is really focused of gossiping or complaining, consciously make an effort to switch the topic. It’s not good enough to realize that our talk is sinful and ask forgiveness. We then must change the way we talk, to a way that honors God.

“But now is the time to get rid of anger, rage, malicious behavior, slander, and dirty language.” –Colossians 3:8


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